Stop Waiting to Be Fixed — Own Your Growth

Growth isn’t about reading another book or sitting through another workshop.
It’s about you — your awareness, your truth, your willingness to stop outsourcing your becoming.

We live in a world that constantly tells us we need something outside ourselves to be whole. A new tool. A new coach. A new process. But here’s the truth: you’re not broken, and no one is coming to fix you.

Owning your growth means taking back that power.

What It Really Means to Own Your Growth

Growth looks like intentionally taking time for yourself.
It’s recognizing your patterns, understanding what peace actually means to you, and choosing to live from that space.

It’s not theory, it’s application. It’s taking what you’ve learned from every class, coach, or book and putting it into practice in a way that fits you. Growth isn’t one-size-fits-all. It’s deeply personal. Sometimes it means catering to your own rhythm rather than chasing someone else’s formula.

Real growth is doing the work quietly, consistently, and honestly.

How We Give Away Our Power

We hand our power over the moment we wait for validation.
We believe someone else needs to see our progress before it’s real. We lean on coaches, leaders, or organizations as crutches instead of using them as mirrors.

Support is beautiful but dependency is dangerous. When we wait for someone else to tell us we’re ready, we deny ourselves the chance to trust our own voice.

Why We Wait to Be “Fixed”

So why do we do it?
Because being “broken” gives us something to hold on to. It gives us a story. It gives us comfort and comfort can be poison.

We wait to be fixed because it’s easier than facing ourselves.
Because our culture, our trauma, and our experiences have taught us that we are never enough on our own. If you hear that story long enough, you start to believe it.

But you’re not broken. You’re becoming.

Radical Responsibility Changes Everything

When you finally take radical responsibility for your growth, self-awareness stops being an exercise and becomes part of your identity. It’s no longer something you “do”, it’s who you are.

I remember realizing this in one of my own coaching programs.
I was working with a group and kept finding myself frustrated that others weren’t moving forward the way I was. I had this deep desire to bring everyone with me and when they didn’t come, I felt held back.

Then it hit me: I wasn’t waiting for them I was waiting for permission.
Underneath that was grief. I remembered my grandmother, one of the few people who had always believed in me. When she passed, I carried that loss into my leadership still looking for someone to see me, support me, validate me.

That moment changed everything. I realized growth isn’t about who joins you. It’s about who you become, regardless of who notices.

Support vs. Dependency

As a coach, I know this line well. My job isn’t to give people answers. It’s to ask the right questions — the kind that help them uncover what’s already inside.

Coaching isn’t meant to last forever. It’s meant to create self-trust.
If I do my job well, my clients outgrow me and that’s the goal.

A Simple Practice to Reclaim Your Power

Start by listening to your body.
Notice how it feels in different moments — tension, peace, resistance, ease. Your body carries truth your mind often ignores.

When you learn to honor what your body is saying, you begin to align your actions with your purpose. Growth becomes less about effort and more about embodiment.

Own your growth.
Stop waiting to be fixed.
You already have everything you need; the question is, will you trust yourself enough to use it?